This is how families reconnect, or this is how we stay not connected.
- Lisa: Hi, are you on right now. Im just learning this facebook stuff so bear with me.
- Russell: lol, who are all these kennedy people
- Lisa: Well I am Lisa. I am Rusty's wife.
- Russell: oh heyas. I just answered a message from katrina, i suppose thats your daughter.
- Lisa: Yes thats my girl . I would like to visit with you. are you getting married in April
- Russell: indeed
- Lisa: is her name Lauren?
- Russell: yes it is
- Lisa: I was confused. it says Lauren & you are already married. thought i messed up on the announcement we got.
- Russell: uh we are, its like this...I proposed in June, we planned to get married on the 3rd of April.
- Lisa: oh. now i am confused
- Russell: Then I got the job offer to come back to Shanghai for the purposes of dealing with embassy and buying a house power of attorney etc.
- we got married on paper, but without a real ceremony
- as its her and my first weddding she deserves the ceremony
- Lisa: I would really like to get to know you better. i think God is working in lots of peoples life. it is a little complicated and would like to talk to you on phone sometime
- Russell: uh, i dont mean to cut you off but the last time my father and i spoke it was one of these god conversations. Now don't go thinking i'm sort of heathen atheist because i"m not. Your faith is your faith and you're welcome to it, but you sure wont see me coming across the table telling you what i believe, i'm pretty sure jesus is a pretty understanding dude and realizes people have lots of different paths in life.
- Russell: you're welcome to the wedding we would love to have you, but remembe its a party for people to enjoy themselves, thats the kind of stuff i'd rather not get into on the happiest day of my wife's life.
- Lisa: its ok. I'm sorry. I still would love to visit with you. I will respect that.
- Russell: I'd love to visit, i would. But i won't be lectured on how everyone else's life is better than mine because they believe in the lord jesus christ or buhdda or allah. please forgive me if i sound forward or rude, but i think its important to be extremely clear that won't be happening.
- Russell: I can understand if my dad doesn't want to come, we haven't talked since I was 16 but please believe we would love to have you. otherwise i wouldn't have bothered sending invitations and regardless of our relationship now, there is always opportunity in the future to fix that, and every father wants to see his son get married.
- Lisa: I am not Rusty and I totally understand where you are coming from. He can come off as being pretty forward and turn people off. it is something i dealt with when i met him. I think if we can get past that it would be awesome to see you two connect.
- Russell: trust me, he and i are much more similar than we'd like ot admit
- Lisa: thats pretty scary! lol cant imagine another rusty out there. He truly is a good person and I love him. he has a very hard time with coming across with people who he truly is
- Russell: nah it happens to me also, I'm very direct with people, as you can see, often it seems abrasive, when i just don't believe in wasting time
- Lisa: i don't want to overwhelm you in one night. i am so glad you responded to my message. yes you are direct like him too. no offense taken. please keep in touch
- Russell: nah I'm fine, its 1 pm for me, I'm in china
- Lisa: oh dear. im sorry. why arent you in bed?
- Russell: because its 1 pm on friday
- Lisa: oh, ok. whatever. talk to you again soon!
- Russell: no problem, tell my dad i said hello and hope you guys can come
